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May 11^th, 2010 at 8:47am

Silent Knight Offline
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Does anybody else sometimes HATE being complimented?

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Reply #1 - May 11^th, 2010 at 10:10am

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Um... no.

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Reply #2 - May 11^th, 2010 at 10:11am

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P.S. Nice signature pic! Wink

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Reply #3 - May 11^th, 2010 at 10:29am

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What's not to like?!

I don't like insincere compliments of course... the kind where someone is just LOOKING for something nice to say.

The worst part about being complimented is not knowing how I come off when I say, "thank you," instead of the customary, "Naw, I am in fact horrible at/in all the things/areas you just mentioned."

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Reply #4 - May 11^th, 2010 at 10:47am

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Never mind. This is one of those threads I wish I had never started, born out of a bad mood. I start getting personal or introspective in a way I realize i don't want to in a public forum. Sorry.

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Reply #5 - May 11^th, 2010 at 12:31pm

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Why do you sometimes hate compliments? What compliments do people give you that irritate you the most? Why do you think they're giving them to you? Now I really want to know.

There is one thing you never put in a trap, if you're smart - if you value your continued existence - if you have any plans about seeing tomorrow there is one thing you never EVER put in a trap.� Me.

Listen, I don't know what sort of kids you've been flying around with in outer space, but you're not telling me to shut up!

As long as I don't bleed or cry, I'll do it!

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Reply #6 - May 11^th, 2010 at 1:09pm

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Mister Grinch wrote on May 11^th, 2010 at 12:31pm:

Why do you sometimes hate compliments?� What compliments do people give you that irritate you the most?� Why do you think they're giving them to you?� Now I really want to know.

A: I feel like they're often insincere. I hate it when people saying something to be nice, but all logic dictates they don't mean it.

B: I often feel like the compliments are innacurate and/or non-applicable, and it makes me feel like the person giving them doesn't "get" me. This one is very common, as I often think m,y twin brother is the only person who DOES get me.

C: What the person intends as a compliment is actually something I consider rather insulting.

D: I consider myself unworthy of the compliment.

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Reply #7 - May 11^th, 2010 at 1:13pm

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Silent Knight wrote on May 11^th, 2010 at 1:09pm:

B: I often feel like the compliments are inaccurate and/or non-applicable, and it makes me feel like the person giving them doesn't "get" me.

This. I feel like this a lot. At least, sometimes the compliments people give me are vastly different than my perceptions of myself, so it makes me uncomfortable inside, as well as making the exchange between us uncomfortable. I always have to make a decision each time if I'll say, "Oh thanks!" or fight them on it so they can see the real me (or my perception of me), and nowadays I find the fight's barely ever worth it.

There is one thing you never put in a trap, if you're smart - if you value your continued existence - if you have any plans about seeing tomorrow there is one thing you never EVER put in a trap.� Me.

Listen, I don't know what sort of kids you've been flying around with in outer space, but you're not telling me to shut up!

As long as I don't bleed or cry, I'll do it!

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Reply #8 - May 11^th, 2010 at 1:20pm

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Mister Grinch wrote on May 11^th, 2010 at 1:13pm:

Silent Knight wrote on May 11^th, 2010 at 1:09pm:

B: I often feel like the compliments are inaccurate and/or non-applicable, and it makes me feel like the person giving them doesn't "get" me.�

This.� I feel like this a lot.� At least, sometimes the compliments people give me are vastly different than my perceptions of myself, so it makes me uncomfortable inside, as well as making the exchange between us uncomfortable.� I always have to make a decision each time if I'll say, "Oh thanks!" or fight them on it so they can see the real me (or my perception of me), and nowadays I find the fight's barely ever worth it.

Exactly. In this case, at least, you get me Wink

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Reply #9 - May 11^th, 2010 at 1:45pm

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Yes. No.� �I mean, I like compliments most of the time... but I don't like people who suck up to me.� First of all, I'm not worth sucking up to, so it's kind of creepy.� �Secondly, most of these people have fragile self-esteems.� They can't stand it if I don't acknowledge their unprecedented mountain of compliments and return an equal amount of compliments all the time.� People like that are just way too high-maintenance for me.� I don't enjoy being around individuals who are so easily shattered and embittered that I have to tiptoe around their fragility all the time, reflecting compliments back to them.� It's reciprocity at it's worst.

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